She Was Afraid of Failing
One of the coolest aspects of my career is coaching others in theirs. Coaching people from stuck to unstoppable is incredibly rewarding.
That nearly wasn't the case with one of my past coaching calls, however. It was a tough one.
Ariel* was distraught and distracted. She knew exactly what she wanted to accomplish, and we developed a strategy to plot her steps out from start to finish. I was excited. She was hesitant.
I could see in her eyes, even with the creation of a plan, she wasn't going to budge.
I asked her if she thought the plan would work. She nodded.
I asked her why she wouldn't implement it. "What makes you think I won't implement it?" she asked.
I told her I could see she had completely checked out, and appeared frozen - whether with doubt, or fear, or both, I didn't know. We did a little digging and she confessed she didn't think she could pull it off.
"Why not?" I asked.
Her answer was another question. "What if I fail?"
Have you ever been there? I'll raise both hands in the air and tell you I have.
Failure isn't simply something we fear. Sometimes it's what we expect.
I don't know about you, but rather than risk failing, I sometimes avoid the path altogether. That was exactly where Ariel was during this coaching session.
The problem with that, however, is she was also avoiding progress.
We talked about how to execute the plan, and how the failure of following it would be a greater loss than any failure she might experience along the way. When she focused on the potential rather than the obstacles, she found herself back in the saddle.
By the time we were done, she was fired up and ready to implement her strategic plan.
I'm not sure what you're tentative about today. I'm not sure what's standing in the way of what you want to achieve.
I can tell you, though, when you avoid the path altogether in an effort to side-step failure, you're only accomplishing avoiding progress.
Don't forego progress toward your goals and dreams. Scary as the steps may be, and rocky as the path may seem, don't stop moving.
Don't leave room for doubt or fear or paralysis. You've got this. Keep moving forward.
*names changed to protect the innocent, and to relive one of my favorite Disney movies. #dualpurpose
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